LET’S TALK ABUSE…

There are 6 primary forms of abuse. This blog post will briefly explore each one and shed light on how it is used by an abuser to maintain power in a relationship. Abuse is intended to create a control and power imbalance in your relationship. Abuse creates an environment of mistrust, tension, violence, and chaos....

When it’s life or death: Preparing for an emergency escape. Guest Podcast

I had the honor to be a guest on TUF Women Table. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbTowDMkYm4&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR2nG3MlMRmXA7ki4HpczifGeMBQSbLZTeOT4BMLCroOM8_TDD8Y4EUnz40

Are You Telling Me that God is Abusive? Sexual Abuse, part 5

I'd cried myself to sleep the night of our wedding, having been refused The next morning, I awoke to his hand on my left hip. "Take off all your clothes; I'm going to consummate this now." Shocked, confused, and dismayed, I obeyed. I didn’t feel like I had a choice. A few months later, after being...

Abusive Pride

I sat very still listening as he droned on into the third hour of lecture. I knew that if I spoke up, talked back, argued, offered an original thought, or looked bored, he'd keep it up for hours. The potential that he'd keep me awake all night was high. I was exhausted but determined to...

Valentine’s Day; When Love Hurts

It was valentines day. I was ecstatic about the gift I was going to give my husband. We loved Disney and visited the parks 2x per year. During one of our visits, we had splurged on a gorgeous Disney print. It had been in our closet for over a year, and this valentines day I...

‘Submit to your husbands’: Women told to endure domestic violence in the name of God…(linked article)

After I wrote my last blog about how the church as a whole, support domestic violence through its mis-teachings and silence, someone shared this report with me. It backs up everything I was sharing  but is much more scientific and the stats are related to Australia! Please follow this link to read the entire, enlightening article!...

How the Church is Supporting Domestic Abuse

I am tired. I am tired of hearing and reading story after story about people who don't believe that someone in their church community could be an abuser/batterer. I talk to women on an almost daily basis, who were/are maligned, accused and even brought before church discipline because they dared to reach out to their...

Recognizing Abuse: Real Stories

You see her in church every week. She is beautiful but quiet, reserved really. She gently directs her 2 children with a soft voice and a small smile. She always grabs your attention. There is something about her. You’ve tried to get to know her but she is an enigma always holding herself at arms […]

I think I’m abused. What Now?

Many women who've been reading my blog and others, have asked what they should do if they realize their relationship is abusive. How do they cope? What should they do? What now? That question can only be answered by the person asking it! You know your relationship best. This is your journey, and only you can...

Valentine’s Day; When Love Hurts

It was valentines day. I was ecstatic about the gift I was going to give my husband. We loved Disney and visited the parks 2x per year. During one of our visits, we had splurged on a gorgeous Disney print. It had been in our closet for over a year, and this valentines day I...