LET’S TALK ABUSE…

There are 6 primary forms of abuse. This blog post will briefly explore each one and shed light on how it is used by an abuser to maintain power in a relationship. Abuse is intended to create a control and power imbalance in your relationship. Abuse creates an environment of mistrust, tension, violence, and chaos....

When it’s life or death: Preparing for an emergency escape. Guest Podcast

I had the honor to be a guest on TUF Women Table. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbTowDMkYm4&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR2nG3MlMRmXA7ki4HpczifGeMBQSbLZTeOT4BMLCroOM8_TDD8Y4EUnz40

Abusive Pride

I sat very still listening as he droned on into the third hour of lecture. I knew that if I spoke up, talked back, argued, offered an original thought, or looked bored, he'd keep it up for hours. The potential that he'd keep me awake all night was high. I was exhausted but determined to...

Valentine’s Day; When Love Hurts

It was valentines day. I was ecstatic about the gift I was going to give my husband. We loved Disney and visited the parks 2x per year. During one of our visits, we had splurged on a gorgeous Disney print. It had been in our closet for over a year, and this valentines day I...

Explaining the Cycle of Abuse

We hear it every day. "Why doesn't she just leave?" We hear this question from family members, from society and even from the victims themselves. This question is worth asking only if it leads to understanding the answers. The answers are many. They are deep, they are convoluted  and they are messy. One of the...

Recognizing Abuse: Real Stories

You see her in church every week. She is beautiful but quiet, reserved really. She gently directs her 2 children with a soft voice and a small smile. She always grabs your attention. There is something about her. You’ve tried to get to know her but she is an enigma always holding herself at arms […]

I think I’m abused. What Now?

Many women who've been reading my blog and others, have asked what they should do if they realize their relationship is abusive. How do they cope? What should they do? What now? That question can only be answered by the person asking it! You know your relationship best. This is your journey, and only you can...

Abusive Looks and Gestures

I was recently triggered on Facebook. Not a big surprise right? Well, I was surprised! I work really hard to keep my Facebook page free from swearing, violence and such yuckiness. To my surprise, when I opened my Facebook feed, a huge picture of an angry man with his middle finger greeted me! To say I...

Valentine’s Day; When Love Hurts

It was valentines day. I was ecstatic about the gift I was going to give my husband. We loved Disney and visited the parks 2x per year. During one of our visits, we had splurged on a gorgeous Disney print. It had been in our closet for over a year, and this valentines day I...

Blog Posts #1-5 Mistakes the Church Makes in Regard to Abuse.

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