Valentine’s Day; When Love Hurts

It was valentines day. I was ecstatic about the gift I was going to give my husband. We loved Disney and visited the parks 2x per year. During one of our visits, we had splurged on a gorgeous Disney print. It had been in our closet for over a year, and this valentines day I...

I Believe You

    My first sexual assault happened when I was 5 or 6 or 7. I can't remember my age. I guess that means I'm lying.   I was confused and scared and I didn't even have the words to describe what had just happened so I didn't tell. I guess that means I'm lying....

Let’s Talk About the Power and Control Wheel

I love learning! So recently, when I was made aware of some changes that have happened in the advocacy field of domestic violence, I got really excited to share it with you! As a survivor, and then as an advocate, one of the first things I learned about was the cycle of violence. I think...

Abusive Intimidation

  I didn't rewind the videotape. I made supper, fed the children, cleaned up then sat at the table to eat my meal. He wanted to watch a movie. This was back before DVD's were popular. Our daughter had been watching Thomas the Tank Engine all week long and we kept replaying the same movie...

Abusive Spiritual Isolation; My Story

  Healing takes time. 8 years later, I still find myself discovering new patterns to the abuse I endured for 15 years. I often go back and reread some of the blog posts I've written here. Sometimes I can improve on them, update them or just revisit my thoughts while I was writing them. I...

NPR and Julie Owens The Complexities Behind Domestic Violence

Listening to "ON POINT" from NPR. My friend Julie Owens is the professional being interviewed this morning. One of the BEST interviews about Domestic Abuse I've ever heard!!! http://www.wbur.org/onpoint/2018/05/11/the-complexities-behind-domestic-violence

Five Things Homeschool Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages: linked blog

Five Things Homeschool Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages   As a homeschooling mom, I have long been aware of the concerns that can happen when a homeschooling family is also abusive. This is a great article that addresses some of those concerns.

Fool is a Biblical word for Abuser

I came across an eye-opening book recently. God Hates Abuse by Robin Mullins Senger. She has written this book to help others who have experienced Christian domestic abuse while relating her story of an abusive Christian marriage. Her ability to lay out the biblical truth in regard to abuse is amazing. I learned so much...

Abusers Bill of Rights

I am an abuser. I have certain expectations and requirements that will have to be followed in order for me to remain in control. I insist that when I am in any relationship that these rights of mine be respected and followed. I will, always, maintain control and complete power in my relationships.    ...

Guns and Domestic Violence in Washington

There are a lot of facts, figures, and statistics on domestic violence and violence against women that I follow quite closely on a regular basis. During the month of January, I had the opportunity to attend a couple of really amazing training where I learned a lot! I thought it would be interesting to share...