What Do Abusers Have In Common?

In order to effectively help a victim of domestic abuse and as a way to more fully understand what you, as a victim, have gone through, it is very important to address the commonalities that we see across the board in abusers. Batterers are individuals who all have a similar way of thinking and functioning...

Abusive Retaliation/Paybacks

A phenomenon that victims experience, but don't always have the words to express, is called Abusive Retaliation or Paybacks. Now, this may automatically leave us thinking about the courts and the retaliation a victim might experience after she reports, leaves or files for protection and yes, this retaliation is a well-documented concern. However, Paybacks go on all...

LET’S TALK ABUSE…

There are 6 primary forms of abuse. This blog post will briefly explore each one and shed light on how it is used by an abuser to maintain power in a relationship. Abuse is intended to create a control and power imbalance in your relationship. Abuse creates an environment of mistrust, tension, violence, and chaos....

Valentine’s Day; When Love Hurts

It was valentines day. I was ecstatic about the gift I was going to give my husband. We loved Disney and visited the parks 2x per year. During one of our visits, we had splurged on a gorgeous Disney print. It had been in our closet for over a year, and this valentines day I...

Let’s Talk About the Power and Control Wheel

I love learning! So recently, when I was made aware of some changes that have happened in the advocacy field of domestic violence, I got really excited to share it with you! As a survivor, and then as an advocate, one of the first things I learned about was the cycle of violence. I think...

Abusive Intimidation

  I didn't rewind the videotape. I made supper, fed the children, cleaned up then sat at the table to eat my meal. He wanted to watch a movie. This was back before DVD's were popular. Our daughter had been watching Thomas the Tank Engine all week long and we kept replaying the same movie...

Abusive Spiritual Isolation; My Story

  Healing takes time. 8 years later, I still find myself discovering new patterns to the abuse I endured for 15 years. I often go back and reread some of the blog posts I've written here. Sometimes I can improve on them, update them or just revisit my thoughts while I was writing them. I...

NPR and Julie Owens The Complexities Behind Domestic Violence

Listening to "ON POINT" from NPR. My friend Julie Owens is the professional being interviewed this morning. One of the BEST interviews about Domestic Abuse I've ever heard!!! http://www.wbur.org/onpoint/2018/05/11/the-complexities-behind-domestic-violence

Five Things Homeschool Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages: linked blog

Five Things Homeschool Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages   As a homeschooling mom, I have long been aware of the concerns that can happen when a homeschooling family is also abusive. This is a great article that addresses some of those concerns.

Fool is a Biblical word for Abuser

I came across an eye-opening book recently. God Hates Abuse by Robin Mullins Senger. She has written this book to help others who have experienced Christian domestic abuse while relating her story of an abusive Christian marriage. Her ability to lay out the biblical truth in regard to abuse is amazing. I learned so much...