The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during that time was 11,766. That’s nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war. Where is the Church? The link between mass murders in... Continue Reading →
Women have held a very important part of Biblical history. It is unfortunate that, since the translators have been influenced by their society, many of the original stories, as well as the words used toward women have been altered and even sometimes deleted. This has had the unfortunate result in diminishing the real influence women... Continue Reading →
A phenomenon that victims experience, but don't always have the words to express, is called Abusive Retaliation or Paybacks. Now, this may automatically leave us thinking about the courts and the retaliation a victim might experience after she reports, leaves or files for protection and yes, this retaliation is a well documented concern. However, Paybacks go on... Continue Reading →
Very well written. I am glad to share this on my own blog http://www.littlebirdflies.wordpress.com
By Terry Loving
How can a woman who is often beaten and maltreated “rejoice?” Does Jesus expect her to shout and praise God as the blows land on her precious body? Can she honestly feel good about following a Savior who encourages her to keep her eyes on the prize – heaven – when the beatings drain joy from her soul? And how shall she pray – “Dear Lord, give me the strength to take another body slam, for I give my all to Thee?”
Sadly, many Christian women believe that it is their “duty” to suffer domestic violence and abuse. They have no real Biblical basis for the abuse, only the lies told to them by abusers who misuse the Word to keep them in bondage. Unfortunately, numerous preachers misquote the Bible in ignorance, and embrace male domination to support the abusers in their misdeeds. Granted, the Bible…
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You see her in church every week. She is beautiful but quiet, reserved really. She gently directs her 2 children with a soft voice and a small smile. She always grabs your attention. There is something about her. You’ve tried to get to know her but she is an enigma always holding herself at arms […]
So, I just go about my blogging world, happily and often stressfully blogging about hard topics. I had no idea there are AWARDS given for these things! LOL Thank you so much Hayley with Red Letters for nominating me!! Your blog is inspiring and a spiritual retreat in a blog for me! OK! Along with nomination... Continue Reading →
Many women who've been reading my blog and others, have asked what they should do if they realize their relationship is abusive. How do they cope? What should they do? What now? That question can only be answered by the person asking it! You know your relationship best. This is your journey, and only you can... Continue Reading →
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Abusive apologies are a common form of emotional abuse and manipulation.
I saw this meme on Facebook today and one of the responses was “70 times 7”, which is a quote from Scripture (Matthew 18:22). This is one of those verses, taken by itself, which is a reason Christians stay in abusive relationships longer than non-Christians.
I have, in the past, seen comments that say Narcissists don’t apologize, abusers never say they are sorry… this isn’t true. There is such a thing as an abusive apology. Abusers often apologize after the abuse, during the honeymoon stage of the cycle. They’ll buy elaborate gifts to go with their apologies, and then as the cycle moves around, they’ll repeat their abuse (often worse) and then apologize again. And those expensive gifts given in remorse? They are held against the victims: “You accepted that gift, you forgave me, you can’t hold my actions against me anymore.” “Why can’t you let that go?…
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