So What IS the Abuser Thinking?

In my last post, we explored some of the things a victim has to consider before she chooses to leave or stay in an abusive relationship. (Should I go or Should I stay?)  This post will explore the important question of why an abuser believes he is allowed to abuse.  Let me begin by saying…

Abusive Anger

It came out of nowhere; completely unexpected. One minute we were enjoying our lunch and a break from homeschooling, and the next moment he was yelling at the top of his lungs. Storming through the house. Throwing whatever was in his path. The children and I were stunned. We sat there, eyes wide open, trying…

Think: The Church, The Truth & Women in Ministry

An incredible, accurate and much needed sermon regarding what God really desires from women in the home and in church. This breaks down the wall of miscommunications of expectations of who women should be.  

Abusive Compliments

  It is hard to imagine a compliment being abusive. After all, we expect that a compliment will make us feel really good about ourselves. We expect that a compliment is given in sincerity, but very often a compliment is given for completely different reasons. An abuser often offers a backhanded or an abusive compliment as…

Abusive Degradation

“You will never be able to survive without me.” “You are going to bankrupt this family.” “Would you like to go sit in the car? Continue talking like this and you can go sit in the car.” “What are you, stupid?” “Now that you have a job, you will need to pay the bills. I…

Domestic Abuse is the Faith Community: Ginger Johnson

My good friend and personal mentor, Ginger, speaking about Domestic abuse at the AWAKEN conference.  Ginger Johnson explains the dynamic of power and control, the cycle of abuse and the effects of abuse on a family. Her talk is SPOT ON!!! Please take a listen! and the panel  

Jesus in the Hard Places Women’s Retreat

Have you been living in a hard place? Are you coming out of a hard place in life? Were there hard places that you still need to find healing from? AmberJoy and Taffy are delighted to help you find healing from the hurt, joy from the sadness and peace in the midst of the stormy…

There was Abuse in my Church Today

**I don’t write this to personally attack any single person, teacher or pastor. In fact, after approaching the teachers they were very understanding, regretful and open. I appreciate their efforts whole heartedly. The grades 9-10 class, including three of my children, presented the sermon today.  It was a readers theater; a group chorus line type…

Let’s Do This, Together (By Neil Schori)

Originally posted on Amy R. Buckley:
Christian communities are not immune to intimate partner abuse and violence. May more churches step up to the plate to become safe havens for the one in three women who suffer. Education and practical training can make a life and death difference. In 2007, I worked for a large…